Here are some of the talks I have written and given this year. Many are inspired by songs I hear in my mind, often on waking. They 'play' until I focus on them and write. Sometimes they are written in my own voice, other times I hear what Neale Walsch, (Conversations With God) calls 'the voiceless voice' and seem to be written through me rather than by me.
WIMAWAY
(Talk originally given at East Ringwood VSU in February 2004, then at the Phoenix Spiritual Centre, Wantirna, on 6 July 2008)
I recently woke early with the song ‘Wimaway’ (in the jungle, the lion sleeps tonight) roaring in my head. It was too loud to ignore so I got up, started writing and this talk is the result. The words about the lion sleeping are, I believe, about the latent power that lies within us all; the spiritual power that can do so much good when appropriately harnessed. I don’t choose my talks - they choose me. There is a particular reason why I have to give this talk here today, as I ‘saw’ myself doing so. The guides gave this message:
“Spiritual power, like all power, is an energy that can be subverted, deliberately or inadvertently, and it is therefore a huge responsibility to be able to have conscious use of that power, together with the possibility of being able to manipulate that power. There are many people currently dabbling in various modalities who have found ways to manipulate spiritual power, but who are not yet spiritually mature enough for the task. They will ‘initiate’ anyone willing to pay the appropriate number of dollars, without regard to the nature and readiness of the individual to receive. Some of these procedures do no harm, they either work or they don’t, but the initiated individuals expect ‘instant magic’ with no input. They then set themselves up as practitioners or initiators of their particular healing or esoteric system, when they have not gone through the appropriate initiations themselves with their spiritual guides on a spiritual level.
These people have merely gone through a process. They have not taken the energy, worked with it quietly and slowly in their own, individual way and integrated it within. When they have taken the apprentices road, the long, slow and safe training of the soul through all levels of being; when they have achieved the appropriate level of humility and lack of desire for self-aggrandisement necessary; it is then possible for that person to bestow a spiritual blessing, sometimes called ‘shaktipat’, upon another who is ready and willing to receive. They don’t bestow this gift of their own volition, but by the grace of God. It is as much a gift for the one bestowing the blessing as for the one bestowed.
The lion sleeps, but when he is aroused, all the latent power within the person begins to stir. If the lion is woken too soon, too vigorously, he is stirred violently, and then the power is unstable. Many who have undergone initiations when not ready for them on all levels of being have become severely disturbed. It can lead to distress and distortion of the subtle bodies, and could, in certain circumstances, lead to mental derangement and the disturbance in, and damage of, the etheric shield. This is the subtle protective field which surrounds not just every human being, but every plant, rock, tree, animal, fish, bird; in fact, all living things.
The etheric shield can be damaged by many other means, such as childhood abuse, the birth process itself, bullying, substance abuse such as alcohol, various hallucinogenic drugs and other kinds of drugs. Also, accidents and even certain illnesses that heat the body and the brain can inflict damage on the subtle bodies and the protective membrane. Life itself is fraught with difficulties.
There is a huge karmic responsibility in the application of certain initiatory practices to anyone. It is dangerous to play with what you don’t understand. We do not for one moment want to put people off using their healing energies for helping another. With the right attitude, love, care and protection, with the invocation of appropriate spiritual helpers such as angels and healing guides, much good can be and is done. It is also perfectly acceptable for money to be used as the means for the exchange of knowledge, time, skills and power – as long as money is not the prime motivator. Oh yes, even if money is a prime consideration useful healing energy may still be imparted. However, for the purpose of this talk we are speaking more specifically of certain initiatory rites as opposed to healing.
You have advertisements, ‘make X amount of money using our special techniques’. People are taught initiatory practices specifically for financial gain with no thought or understanding of what they are doing, the powers they are unleashing and the long term effects of releasing this ‘sleeping lion’ within a particular individual and no degree or diploma from any educational system can assist one to have that thought and understanding either, regardless of the depth of respect and the immunity such a qualification seems to furnish one with in your society.
This ‘sleeping lion’, is more correctly known as the coiled serpent of the kundalini power. This spiritual power lies latent at the base of the spine until, through spiritual practice, awareness and great love, the power rises up through the energy centres close to the physical spine. It is something that lies within each person but its safe activation is dependent upon many factors. Some people, spiritual teachers who have earned the right on a spiritual level, are able to stir the lion gently from his slumbers in certain individuals; sometimes through healing energy directly given and sometimes, with a teacher sufficiently developed, merely by spending time in their presence.
Certain truly great spiritual teachers in the physical may bestow the blessing on their followers at a distance to anywhere in the world, either when it is deemed necessary or when it is given as a gift of grace for great devotion with humility – that is, service without expectation of reward. These teachers are the few. There are also teachers in spirit, under the direction of the great masters - those who sit directly below the ‘throne of God’ - who bestow the gift of grace from the realms of spirit once their charges have achieved the spiritual maturity required to handle the power well.
Star Wars is a perfect example of what we are wishing to impart. Yoda trained and initiated Jedi Knights, one of whom was Obi Wan Kenobi. Obi Wan chose to pass his knowledge on to another. He took it upon himself to train the being who turned to the dark side, Darth Vader. In the story, Obi Wan, although a great Jedi Knight, did not have sufficient discernment to see that his student was not yet spiritually mature enough for his task. He later admitted that he was mistaken in his assessment of his own readiness to perform the initiation and in Darth’s readiness to receive. Darth Vader was vulnerable to the approaches of the dark side because he was not sufficiently strengthened during his training to be able to resist. It may have been a flaw in his character that could not have been overcome, yet it may have been at the point in time when the power was vested in him, he was not mature enough spiritually to accept the responsibility such an initiation entails.
We recommend the Star Wars trilogy as a story with great lessons to be learned, an allegory of great power and wisdom. It is one of the better items to come out of your film industry and of course in book form, and carries some important messages.
In another instance you will remember the Bible story of the woman who touched the hem of Jesus’ garment and was healed. As Jesus felt the energy go from his body he asked who touched him. When the woman made herself known he told her, ‘Thy faith has made you whole’. He did not deliberately bestow the healing grace (‘shaktipat’ or the blessing of the guru) - it was bestowed through Him, given not through His own strength of will but by the grace of God, using Jesus as the channel for the divine healing energy. Because Jesus’ ego was not involved, he did not need to choose who received and who did not – it was done through him.
Jesus was also able to discern those who were likely candidates for the eventual reception of spiritual power. You may not be able to determine from the Bible stories the care with which He chose His ‘inner circle’ of disciples. It may appear to be a random selection, but He was able to perceive their energy field and to discern the presence of a kindred spirit with whom he could have a harmonious relationship and at the same time share deeper truths. This could be likened to a teacher deciding who should sit in a developing circle. Jesus had many other followers, an ‘outer circle’. Amongst these followers there were many women. The inner circle had to reflect what was deemed socially acceptable in his times yet women had access to the same teachings as ‘the twelve’ even though it could not be seen to be so. They sat on the periphery, so to speak, and soaked up both the knowledge and the Master’s blessing.
Here is another aspect of the spiritual life that needs to be fully understood - to be a fully initiated ‘Master’ (gender irrelevant – can be male or female) one has to be a fully integrated individual. This involves the balance of masculine and feminine qualities and principles. Whilst a master may be physically male or female, they have integrated the finer points of both the masculine and the feminine polarities. They understand the importance and necessity of the best qualities of each and have made these qualities their own. In achieving this balance of energy these individuals have become the embodiment of the symbol of the Tau; the yin/yang is complete and in harmony within them. This does not detract from their physical masculinity or femininity but does mean that they can rise above the need to feel different from or divisive with the other gender. The need to compete with the ‘opposite sex’ or set any store by those differences in a negative way no longer exists. They see the divinity in ALL.
There are many who currently bandy about the word ‘Master’ without any true thought of what a master is. We would suggest that mastery of the Self, self-knowledge and self-healing, is a prime pre-requisite to becoming a master of anyone or anything else and that when you achieve that level you would not choose to describe or designate yourself as ‘Master’. Others would possibly bestow that title upon you out of respect for your power and your gifts but it is not something you would ‘entitle’ yourself to. Those with self worth would not need to have such a title and would have the humility not to designate their selves as such.
All the way through this communication, you, Jan, have questioned if we are referring to the Reiki attunement. Reiki is amongst one of the safer initiations and can be seen to work quite well in certain individuals. However, if the individual is not sufficiently ready, even though they may be opened and to some degree cleared or unblocked to receive the Universal Energy, if their underlying problems and blockages remain unresolved these will reassert themselves over time. This is because of the thought patterns and perceptions of the individual, which may not have changed. In such cases there needs to be a clearing, some of which may be achieved through healing, but some of which needs to be a conscious and honest exploration of one’s processes and attitudes. This is in order to clear away basic misperceptions which are at the core of an individual’s belief system and which may have shaped or mis-shaped their character or personality. (Beliefs such as ‘I am unworthy’, and so on.)
There are basic precepts which, if not fully understood, complied with and integrated within, can hinder us from living the truly spiritual life. This can eventually cause various health and well-being concerns. One of the prime precepts that need to be understood is that of FORGIVENESS. Being unable to forgive is a huge barrier to the flow of spiritual power, for lack of forgiveness causes blockages and hardening within.
When you harden your heart metaphorically, you harden your heart physically. When you’ve ‘had a gutful’ metaphorically, you may experience physical discomfort in your gut. With forgiveness comes acceptance. Non-acceptance is resisting what is, it is a denial of reality and therefore a blockage to the flow of spiritual energy. In physical terms non-acceptance acts as a dam; we constrict the flow of energy by trying to resist the fact of what is or what was. We somehow think that by resisting the truth and denying that what happened really happened we can change it. We can’t; but what we can do is to change our perception of it.
For example, you might want to resist the fact that you may have had abusive parents, because somehow that has made you feel a lesser person. There may be a deep, underlying belief that if you had been more lovable, they would have treated you better. You may resist the facts, yet by accepting the truth of it you might then be able to see that the problem was not you. The problem was with them. Perhaps they didn’t hit you because you cried, but you cried because they hit you. That was all they knew. But then look further. What was it that was done to them? And look at the strong person you’ve become.
You are strong enough to let go, you are strong enough to forgive, release and accept. In accepting that it was how it was, and that you are a perfect child of God who survived in an imperfect world, someone strong enough to face your own perceived imperfections and love yourself anyway, big enough to forgive your parents for the lousy childhood, perceptive enough to see the gift that was hidden in the pain, you can free yourself to allow the spiritual energy to flow through you, unhindered by the blocks of the past.
In a way, all of life is an initiation - the rotten childhood, the broken relationships, and so on. These things are all a part of the whole experience of life. It’s what we make of them and how we deal with them that will determine the success of the mission.”
My guides have said the following words to me several times: be here; be now; be free. In the here and now, if we are fully present in each moment, we are free. The past cannot touch us. While our past still has the power to hurt us and affect our behaviour towards others, we are in bondage to it. We can never be free while we hold resentment towards even one other person. It’s a tall order to let go of negative feelings attached to being mistreated, cheated or otherwise hurt, but if you truly want to flow with the energy, if you truly want to feel the joyfulness of life, that is what you will do - then people will feel blessed by your presence. Some people just shine. You feel good to be around them.
Can someone truly shine if they are filled with resentment, anger and vengeful feelings? No! No matter how pleasant they are, how friendly, how kind, how generous, there is something tight and rigid about someone who nurses their resentment. Sometimes, if people feel their resentment starting to dissipate, they will pull their resentments out again, to re-energise, strengthen and renew them. They take perverse pleasure in their martyrdom. ‘After what they did to ME!’ they say - and relive the whole thing all over again. People hold on to their hurts and wounds like badges of honour, but they are not badges or medals, they are millstones.
You show your true spirituality and the generosity of your spirit by being able to forgive those who hurt you. It is such a basic precept that it is in the Lord’s Prayer that most of us learned when we were small children. ‘Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us’. But I have listened to people who have been in this philosophy for years and they can’t let go, can’t forgive - then they wonder at their ailments and may never achieve the greatness they could aspire to. We misuse and misdirect our spiritual energy with every vengeful or resentful thought and every ‘poor me’ diatribe. I did it for years, sometimes still do when I forget… We all do it to some degree, but for anything other than the most diabolical things, I now accept the advice to get past it.
It used to take me a long time to process jibes and snubs, but I have adopted that seemingly harsh but ultimately helpful phrase and tell myself, “Come on Jan, GET OVER IT!” The reward for getting over it, forgiving, letting go and moving on, is the free flow of spiritual energy, and I myself want as much of that as I can get. I don’t want my lion to sleep any more! I don’t really want him to roar either – but I want to feel that power… I’d like to feel that controlled, vibrant, spiritual power coursing through my veins, not leaking from my energy centres all over the place and pouring out in ‘poor me’ thinking, vitriol and poisonous thoughts because of some resentment from the past. Every poisonous thought, every toxic comment, pollutes our atmosphere.
We have all trespassed against others, accidentally and deliberately. Those who can’t forgive those who have trespassed against them are usually even harder on their own selves. Release the need to be perfect and release the need for the past to be anything other than it was. The only thing we can change about the past is our own perception of it. If the past keeps encroaching on the now, it needs to be looked at, which can be painful, but can also ultimately be healing when we put a new and more positive meaning on a difficult event. Sometimes it takes a painful event to propel us to a new direction.
Human beings tend to resist change, which is pretty pointless when life is nothing but change – sometimes it may be so slow as to be imperceptible, but just as running water gradually wears away rocks, change is still happening. Eventually time carves new shapes in our lives, just as the water shapes the stones. By taking the higher view you can see where the painful events have led you to make bold decisions that, if your equilibrium hadn’t been disturbed by these external forces, you may never had found the momentum or courage to make.
Events such as relationship break-ups, deaths, redundancy, or lesser events like an argument with a friend, being voted off a committee, a disagreement within an organisation that has been an important part of your growth, may have forced you to take a different tack. At the time you may have felt grievously wounded, but look back and see where your path has led you since, then you might find you can release your resentment, because through that very event, you have found something better.
When you see the gift in what might initially seem to be a misfortune, you can shift your perspective, forgive, accept – and often, you can also be thankful. Losing a job may be devastating at the time, but may ultimately be the best thing that ever happened. Then you can be generous enough to release all the resentment you may have held towards those who hurt you. You may even eventually be able to bless them with love. Happiness is the finest revenge.
Happiness, freedom from the chains of the past, genuine care for your fellow human beings and an appreciation of the simple, most magnificent things in nature, all help to give you a free flow of powerful spiritual energy. The more peaceful you are with yourself, the more you have released the pain of the past, the more gratitude you have for the wonderful things in your life such as friendship, birdsong, a warm bed, a hot shower, food on your table, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a safe, beautiful country in which to live, the more that beautiful spiritual energy will manifest in your life. This will uplift you and touch all who have the good fortune to come close to you in life.
Use your energy wisely, because it is powerful. You are powerful. You can affect the energy in a room by your attitude and the power of your positive or negative feelings. You are transmitting and receiving energy all the time, to and from the people sitting either side of you, to the front or behind you, to me and to everyone in the room. This is true even if you have no conscious awareness of some of those other people. All the people in this room create ‘group energy’; each one of us contributes towards its harmony or disharmony. Some people have a more powerful presence than others, yet every single one of you affects the atmosphere within this group. Right now every one of you is adding to or detracting from the full, positive force of the group’s power, and as it is in this room, so it is in the family, the workplace, the town, the world. The power of one is great indeed.
We all have a tremendous responsibility towards ourselves and towards everyone else. Just by a change in focus and attitude you can flick the switch from negative to positive. Your sleeping lion can roar or purr; it can be powerful beyond measure and achieve a great deal of good. Use it wisely and well and it will bring great joy to your life and to all others.
©Jan Hunneybell, 2 Feb 2004
HEAVEN HELP MY HEART
As usual a song sets the scene for this week’s talk and the message is in the title, Heaven Help My Heart. In the song Tina Arena asks for help with love. When I realised the subject of this talk, I thought, ‘Does it have to be about love again?!’ I don’t choose the subject of my talks but wait for inspiration from spirit. I write what flows into my mind and as I type it up I may get extra thoughts to add in.
Having done this for a while it’s clear that my guides know what they are doing better than I do. The talks are meant for everyone who attends them and hopefully have something of interest for everyone, but there are also people for whom the talk or part of it will be particularly significant. It can be like having an anonymous reading, so if you find yourself thinking, ‘This is meant for me,’ it probably is - and love, or its lack, is so often the cause of all our joys and woes.
Recently the inspirations I receive have stressed the need for us all to recognise that we are a three fold entity of body, mind and spirit and that each of those elements needs to be given due regard. For heaven to help us as much as possible, we have to help ourselves. The old saying that heaven helps those who help themselves is often taken out of context and used as a reason for selfishness or to take something that isn’t ours, but its true meaning is that we must be willing to do some of the work ourselves.
Heaven can’t help us to have perfect health if we persist in eating junk food and not exercising. If we remedy our diet and get moving then by our best intentions and doing what needs to be done we attract spiritual help. We can’t expect heaven to help us to stay safe and out of trouble on the road if we speed and drive recklessly; to receive heaven’s help we have to help ourselves by doing the right thing. This is one of the Spiritualist principles – personal responsibility; and in helping ourselves we also walk that path of eternal progress which another principle states is available to anyone who wishes to tread it.
As we take responsibility for our wellbeing we automatically progress by acting with integrity in our own highest interests. Our highest interest is not selfish; if you’ve been pushed into a particular career but your soul cries out to be or do something else, your higher self may know that you have the potential to do something exceptional in the world by following your passion. Less dramatically but equally as important, it knows you may find personal fulfilment by doing it.
At times our highest interest may require sacrifice. From a spiritual perspective, particularly in choices that involve moral dilemmas, our highest interest may not be served by doing what we want to do but by doing what we know to be right – and they are not always the same thing. Our own highest interest will always also be the highest interest of all; the choice for the greater good.
Life gives us all challenges and choices. They vary according to the individual lessons we need to learn. That’s why we’re here and why we have a conscience to help override the desires of our ego self and guide us to our wisest choices, which are those of our higher self. That may not make our dilemmas any easier or less painful – free will comes at a cost - but when we do have to make difficult choices, (even while we are told that there is no right or wrong, just wise choices and less wise choices from which we will still learn our lessons) it is worth bearing in mind that in the long term, a clear conscience is a precious asset.
By being our own best person the positive vibes we then put into the world cannot help but attract those of a similar vibration on earth and in spirit as it is a law of physics that like attracts like. You may say, ‘What about opposites attracting?’ That is also true because life is a paradox; we have to live with and do our best to reconcile its contradictions.
The phenomena of opposites attracting doesn’t make conflict inevitable. We are attracted to what we lack or need to learn in ourselves, so someone who lacks confidence may be attracted to friends or partners with an over abundance of confidence. The cosmic purpose behind that attraction is to bring balance to both parties. One partner may be over cautious with money whilst the other may be too lavish - again, the ideal outcome of such an attraction is for one partner to learn to be more relaxed over finances and the other to become more responsible. At the same time we hopefully learn further lessons of tolerance of and respect for our differences and to become more flexible in our own approach.
Sadly, what often happens before we reach that happy balance of harmony is conflict, resentment, unhappiness and estrangement. This is mostly because people like to be right. In order to be right they have to make the other person wrong - but the lesson isn’t about winning, losing or whose will is strongest and who will back down first. It’s about finding balance and creating relationships where there are no losers - then we can all feel good about ourselves.
Both ‘like attracting like’ and ‘opposites attracting’ can and do exist within the same relationship. Our similarities and our differences attract us to each other, mostly on an unconscious level, in order to provide material for our life lessons. My husband and I come from families with similar backgrounds and no cultural differences, which is ‘like attracting like’, but his family had an optimistic outlook whereas mine tended towards negativity. In that regard opposites attracted. I was fortunate to have an opportunity to connect with different role models with a better way of seeing life. Being with people who saw sunshine where we saw rain was a chance for my own attitudes to become more balanced.
When we decide to come to places like this, we find a diverse crowd of all ages and from many cultures, but we know that most of those attending will be interested in spirituality and believe in the possibility of spirit communication so we have a common connection despite our differences. To visit
In finding an outlet to express and further develop our interests, we help our heart. Helping ourselves in the love department is not only about romantic love but about our general wellbeing - and our emotional and spiritual wellbeing is helped when we can express ourselves honestly and openly.
When we speak sincerely and truthfully we say it is ‘from the heart’ and when we can’t be our true selves, our heart suffers. What begins on emotional and spiritual levels may eventually affect us physically. ‘Feelings’ arise from mental and emotional responses but are felt in our body. When we say our ‘feelings’ are hurt where are those feelings located? They can be anywhere in the body, yet so very often the sharpest psychic pain is felt in our heart. To prevent those feelings manifesting as illness we need peace in our hearts. We find that by being ok with who we are and being as true to ourselves and our pathway as possible. That can be a struggle but is well worthwhile.
When I was first attracted to the spiritual pathway I found it hard to walk it openly. I read avidly about spirituality, healing and mediumship but it took more courage to attend meetings and develop my own gifts, because my friends and family did not have the slightest interest in such things. Like most people, I prefer company when I go somewhere new but it became clear to me that my investigations into spirituality would have to be done alone. I seemed to have very strong, invisible cords tugging me towards this pathway, so in the title of the book, I felt the fear and did it anyway.
Taking that step was one of the best things I ever did, leading to a new way of life - even as I lived in the same house with the same partner and the same people around me. They’re still there and they’re still not interested 12 years later! If I had waited for company I’d have waited a long time. I’d still be waiting! I had to take responsibility for my spiritual needs and step into the unknown alone. In doing so I found more friends and like minded acquaintances than I could have dreamed of and to use another heart phrase, that’s heart warming.
Have you noticed that the word HEARTH is heart with an H added? H begins both Home and Heaven; it’s all in the heart. The hearth is the centre of the home where we come for warmth and our own heart is our inner hearth. Take the H off the front of the word hearth and you get EARTH, the planet that is our home for the duration of this incarnation. It’s where we have to strive to do our best within the constraints of the physical life before our eventual return home to the spirit world. I believe that as far as we can, we are meant to try to create heaven on earth while we are here, through being the best people possible, using our heart and our life energy, which is love, in a far wider way than we mostly focus on.
We so often get caught up in ‘selfish love’ or in wanting someone to call our own that we forget about wider love. You might say, ‘Well, Jan, it’s alright for you, you’ve got someone.’ I know how fortunate I am but I also know that if I didn’t have that, it would be even more important to access those other kinds of love - such as love for my fellow human beings and love of my pathway in life - to sustain me.
It’s good to have a passion, something to get up for each morning, even if there isn’t a ‘someone’ to get up for and to have a good, healthy love, by which I mean regard and respect, for our own selves. If you don’t have someone outside of yourself to love at present, how much more important it is to have or to develop self love! And as is the nature of life, in that state of self acceptance you are more likely to attract someone of quality who resonates to a similar energy as yourself.
If you are currently single, don’t keep asking, ‘What’s wrong with me?’ There is nothing wrong with you; you’re just focussing on external love – remember, there are many abusive and exploitative relationships out there and even more that are empty and unrewarding. That can be far more lonely, isolating and restrictive than being alone. The song says, I know it’s out there somewhere but it’s an as above, so below kind of thing; if you can’t currently find what you need ‘out there’ why not start by looking ‘in here’, in the heart of you?
Give yourself the kind of love you would like to receive and that you would give to a partner – and for those of us who have someone, let’s remember that all relationships, including that with your own self, require ongoing attention to stop them falling into disrepair and withering through neglect. Bear in mind that just because someone is still there in body doesn’t necessarily mean they are with you in mind and spirit. A relationship needs at least a little of all three…
As we focus on our heart’s needs on all levels and of being the best person possible, we attract positive energy and spirit help towards us. You may not consciously work with guides and angels but any passion you have will attract those with similar passions from the spirit realms. When a book you need seems to appear from nowhere and other help falls into your lap, you can be sure that spirit help or if you prefer, universal energy, is instrumental in providing that help. Synchronicity is a way in which ‘heaven helps those who help themselves.’ So called coincidences and ‘me too’ moments are often divinely inspired.
We need to follow the clues and listen inwardly – and that’s another word enshrined in the word ‘heart’ – well, two words actually, EAR and HEAR. How often are we told to listen to or with our heart when we are trying to decide which way to go in life? We are creators and we create our life and reality with every choice we make. As creators we are the artists of our own life and again within the word ‘heart’ you will find ART. What picture are you painting with your life? Is it a restful landscape, a beautiful portrait or a chaotic abstract? Mine’s a colourful blend of them all…
As you follow your heart and do what you love, even if only in spare moments, you become more in tune with yourself, the world you live in and the world of spirit. Expressing yourself honestly and authentically from your highest intentions and aspirations attracts high quality energy from the universe - and high quality protection. You not only attract protection but create it from your own positive attitude, which is like a force field, keeping negativity out and allowing a free flow of positive energy exchange, also called love, to occur. This creates miracles for we connect not just with other humans and the spirit help of guides, angels and of course our loved ones, but also with nature spirits.
Some people may find this a little hard to take, but nature spirits aren’t just figments in a world of airy, fairy imagination. Through being positive, accepting and loving, we learn the art of appreciation and gratitude. It is these qualities that seem to help create a connection with nature. The energy that runs through every living thing, which is love, recognises gratitude, appreciation, reverence and awe. I will share the following story, a similar, slightly less dramatic experience than (named person there) had.
A couple of years back I went for a walk and as I strolled along I noticed a handsome liquidambar tree. In a spontaneous moment of appreciation I sent it a thought, ‘Oh you are so lovely – you’re beautiful now with your glossy green leaves and you’re beautiful in the autumn with all your gorgeous colours,’ and as I passed by, a bolt of energy came from that tree and entered the back of my neck. It filled me with incredible energy as if the tree was saying ‘Thank you’. For about a week I had a heightened sense of wellbeing and awareness of the invisible life in nature all around me. It was wonderful.
It may never happen again because now I know such things can happen, a part of me wants and hopes for a repeat experience, but it may be that such gifts only come through our innocence and lack of expectation. While it is mostly beyond our awareness, I now know and have had proof that there is consciousness in nature. Where there is consciousness there is the possibility of communication – we just don’t always know how, but seems to be through love. Be open to the seemingly impossible, so you will appreciate it when it happens and know it to be true. It didn’t happen to me because I’m any more special than anyone else. It could just as easily happen to you. My experience was beyond imagination and when I think of it I still feel a twinge of excitement. Where? In my heart…
Our heart chakra or energy centre is in the centre of our chest. All treasure, as we know, is found in a treasure-chest and we all have one – it’s located in our trunk! When you follow your heart, there you will find your greatest treasure. Don’t save your love up for the day you can give it to someone special – give it out every day to everyone and everything.
(I took the congregation through a short, guided visualisation.) Just close your eyes for a few moments. Take a relaxing breath… now take your attention to the centre of your chest. The physical heart is to the left, but your spiritual heart is at the centre. Sense the presence of a beautiful clear quartz crystal at that centre and at the heart of this gorgeous crystal, an intense point of golden light. This light is pulsating like a heart beat.
As you see or sense it pulsating, allow that light, which is love energy, to burst from that crystal like a beautiful firework. Let it shine from the centre of your heart and then let that lovely, liquid light flow and fill every cell of your body. Breathe it in. As this wonderful, warm light of pure love completely fills every space in your body, let it radiate outwards and move beyond the confines of your body. See or feel it spreading further and further from your body until your light fills this room. There is enough love in the jewel at the centre of your heart to fill you, to fill this room and to light up the Universe. Feel it filling your body with vibrant life and notice how the more you send it out the more you feel it within. That’s why it is better to give than to receive. In giving you receive more than you could ever imagine possible.
Now allow that light to gradually come back towards you; pull it in and wrap it around you. Keep your heart open and receptive as you take a deep breath and bring your consciousness back to this room. As you become fully present once more and open your eyes, know that you have given your boundless, endless, eternal love energy out and you have also received it from everyone here and from yourself.
I hope most of you got something from that exercise. If you didn’t, it doesn’t mean you are lacking in any way - you simply need to practice. You have just transmitted and received love energy.
Love is a bottomless pot, the magic porridge pot in children’s stories that never runs out and whose owners never go hungry. When you feel you have no more to give it’s because you need to replenish your self. It may be as easy as doing the short but powerful exercise we just did and asking – we were told, ‘ask and it shall be given.’ The song asks, ‘Heaven help my heart’. We will and we do receive, but to truly receive we have to be willing to give.
When we feel unloved we can become unloving and even get mean. We may think, ‘I won’t love you unless you love me.’ Then we are at stalemate. In situations of conflict someone has to be the bigger person and be the first to be generous. If you feel your generosity isn’t appreciated, please understand that we don’t always get love back from where we give it - but it is never wasted. We may get it back in unexpected ways from unexpected sources, so don’t believe your efforts are in vain.
The person you give your energy to may not realise the extent of the gift you have given them but the Universe knows. However, at times we need to think carefully about where we focus our energy and maybe take it where it is better spent. Also, when we give of our time, energy and/or things, are we giving the other person what they need or what we think they need? Are you giving what you want to give and then expecting others to be grateful? If they don’t want what you are offering it will not be appreciated, especially if you’re too forceful. Imposing your will on others and making them take what they don’t want is not generosity, it is bullying. The most likely outcome is that you will be resented.
My mum used to say, ‘It’s better to give than to receive,’ - she was usually just trying to get me to do the washing up! She quoted all the wise sayings, often for guilt inducement - it wasn’t a good strategy, I just got more resentful but I did do the dishes; well, sometimes - not, I confess, with good grace! Now I understand the true meaning of that saying, for when we do ‘good’ we do ‘god’, which is love, and if we do our share in the true spirit of giving we give out Lots Of Vibrant Energy (LOVE for short!) and energy recreates itself so we get it back. It’s the gift that keeps on giving.
We only have a loveless life if we don’t give of our own love - a partnerless life is not a loveless life unless we choose it to be. Heaven helps our heart when we decide to give of ourselves in ways that bring us most joy and that use our unique gifts, talents and passions in the most positive and useful way. We can put that love into painting, baking a cake, tending a garden or helping a good cause; being a good neighbour, sending healing thoughts - anything.
It doesn’t matter how we use it as long as we do use it. If we don’t have a certain someone to lavish it on we can still use it. Unlike keeping money in the bank we don’t earn interest on unspent love – the dividends grow in relation to how much we spend. Unspent energy becomes destructive. We are transmitters and receivers, we are that pulsating crystal - and the energy is meant to be used.
I wrote the above on Thursday morning and thought that was it but on Friday I lay half awake and heard a line of a song asking ‘Where is the love?’ which I noticed and ignored, but then I heard the plaintive song from Oliver, Where Is Love? and got the feeling that spirit want to reiterate how bleak life can be if we always look and wait for our love, and in a wider sense our joy of life, to come from somewhere out there. Love is available to everyone now; it is in here, in our treasure chest. We can access the warmth of love from within.
Even as most people yearn for someone to call their own and others aren’t happy with the partner they have and yearn for some connection and romance in their lives, there is so much more to love than the illusory two halves making a whole; we are meant to be whole within ourselves. The connection with the beloved is when we make our inner connection to the Source; the yearning is for divine love which is why earthly love can so very often be disappointing, for after attraction may come disillusion. The choices are to work with what you have or move on.
Another song says love the one you’re with which, with some effort and goodwill could lead to a deeply rewarding relationship. Some people settle for a life of disappointment or engage in a constant chase to find what’s missing. An alternative is to use your energy in ways that fill you from the inside. The quest for the grail is to find the treasure within.
Where is the love? Inside – it’s a choice you make. You can choose to be bitter that love or life passed you by or your choices didn’t end up being what you had hoped for or you can decide to be the love you need, give it to yourself and shine it into the world so we can all benefit from your light. You then become what a Great Teacher called, ‘the light of the world’ - for when you decide to open that trunk that’s been sitting gathering dust, prepare to be dazzled.
The light shines out when you realise that you are and you have the love you seek within. Heaven helps your heart when you allow it to open wide and you embrace life and live with joy. It’s almost too simple but as you give out you will receive. The trick is to give without expectation of return.
You can be happy even as you may still wait and hope for the day your prince or princess will come. We often think, ‘I’ll be happy when…’ but we can decide, ‘I’ll be happy now…’ That’s how we help our heart and it is also how we will eventually heal our world.
©Jan Hunneybell, 13 April, 2008
Since Tuesday I’ve had the song
Getting songs as messages is a bit like how it is for Oda Mae in the movie Ghost who keeps hearing I’m Henry the Eighth I am until she finally takes notice – but maybe not quite as persistent! It’s common to receive messages this way but most people dismiss the songs that they hear in their mind, not realising that songs and music are used as a communication device by Spirit. Don’t ask me how they do it, I don’t know, but if granny’s favourite song is in your mind she may be telling you she’s watching out for you. If you turn on the radio and a song reminding you of your late friend keeps coming on, it may not be the radio stations limited play-list to blame but your loved one wanting you to know they’re around. It may even be a message from your guides so if a song sticks in your head, take notice and listen to the words.
I lay and thought about
This friend has very high standards for herself. I know that if the situation was reversed she would be distraught and have terrible trouble forgiving herself. In the past I would have been much the same. This is the negative state of regret, where you can’t let go and endlessly berate yourself. These days I forgive myself more easily. I felt remorseful for a while but having apologised I soon let go. It is healthy regret to feel appropriately uncomfortable, to do what we can to make things right and then let to go, but as she said, it’s often far easier to forgive other people than to forgive ourselves.
Making mistakes and then feeling devastated by them is the biggest problem with the emotion that we call regret. If you think of the word, re-gret is a contraction of re-greet; it is to keep opening the doors of our mind, heart and soul to what is past and cannot be changed - over and over again. No matter how often we re-live those many incidents in our lives that we would prefer to give a different ending, we can never change the outcome. What’s done is done, so unless the act of going back over some event in our lives can be used constructively, it’s best not to do it if we can possibly stop ourselves.
Something that many people do if they happen to be laying awake at 3 in the morning is to mull over past incidents and conversations and think, ‘Oh, no! Why did I say that? What will they think of me? I didn’t mean it like that…’ When I do it I call it beating myself up and only as I’ve been writing this talk do I realise that this self flagellation comes under the umbrella of ‘regret’. Thankfully I don’t do it quite so much any more.
This process of regret starts as a review of some experience we’ve had that comes to mind. To re-view is a useful process because we learn through experience. It is appropriate to go over our day in our mind to see what we learned, what we could have done differently, what gave us satisfaction and what we’ve achieved. In fact it’s a good spiritual practice to do that at the end of each day before sleeping, to mentally run through our day and to put the events and issues to bed as we put ourselves to bed. The inner conversation of, ‘I could have done that better - I won’t do that again but look what I achieved,’ is fine. It’s the inner equivalent of taking off our day clothes, brushing our teeth and so on, a preparation for our night’s rest by removing the incidents of the day from our mind to allow for restful sleep.
Other than in exceptional circumstances we wouldn’t go to bed fully dressed and unwashed from the day. Just as we divest ourselves of our shoes and clothes, reviewing our achievements, mistakes and defeats is in a similar way a taking off of the mental and emotional garments we have put on during the course of the day and a washing off of any mental and emotional debris that may be detrimental to our spirit. Some memories need placing in the garbage bin - in other words they need to be discarded; others need to be put in drawers – that is, kept in our memory bank but not out on display; whilst yet others need to be placed on the bedside cabinet ready to pick up in the morning along with our watch, keys and in my case, the specs.
In reviewing our day the idea is to set all thoughts aside ready for the night’s sleep and in that regard reviewing is a good thing. To regret something is also reasonable and right as a short lived emotion if it reinforces a lesson. In my example I might think, ‘I don’t like letting friends down, it upsets us all and affects my credibility. I pride myself on being reliable so in future I’ll call immediately or make a note to call later so I don’t get distracted and forget.’ I’ve gone over the situation, taken responsibility for it, put a plan in place to minimise making the same mistake in future then let go; doing this can prevent those 3 am sessions that are so draining and unproductive.
The thing about regret and its companion, guilt, is what it does to us, how it makes us feel – if we hold on to it, it becomes destructive to our spirit and soul and ultimately to our body, especially if we overdo the self bashing. Think of the bodily reactions that accompany those thoughts of ‘If only I…,’ and ‘I wish I…,’ There’s the racing heart, the clenched stomach, the butterflies – all sorts of reactions as well as the thoughts going round and round in our minds – it’s truly a whole body experience and not a very good one.
It seems to me that the difference between regret and resentment is that regret is mostly about ourselves; what we wish we had or hadn’t done. It’s our personal transgressions, errors and choices. People with high standards tend towards regret because they mull over things and think, ‘Why did I do that?’, ‘Why didn’t I see that coming?’ People with high fear factors ask themselves similar things, for regret is often about the possible consequences of our actions and the effects they may have on others.
With resentment the tormenting thoughts tend to be aimed at or about other people; re-sent-ment – we’re re-sending angry feelings. ‘Why did he do that to me?’ or ‘How could she hurt me like that?’ while regretful thoughts are aimed at our selves; ‘I blew it! Idiot! I wish I could try again, I’ll never get over it and I’ll never forgive myself.’ If these thoughts become clubs with which to thump ourselves or knives that we constantly stab ourselves with then both resentment and regret are equally damaging. They are a form of self abuse – and we can add guilt to that list as it’s often inextricably woven with regret.
Some people seem able to say and do the most outrageous things and never think twice about it. If you’re one of them you might wonder what I’m going on about. You may never have lost a moment’s sleep about the things you say or do and how you say and do them but you would be in a minority - and if others are victims of that confronting and upsetting behaviour, when you eventually see the movie of your life you may be surprised at the havoc your unthinking words may have caused. It behoves us all to think twice. I can be a chatterbox but I like the insight that the reason we have two ears and only one mouth is because it is wise and may be to our benefit to listen twice as much as we talk.
That movie of our life is another reason for a daily review. If we are insightful enough to see our triumphs and mistakes and to lay them to rest on a daily basis, when we finally leave this mortal coil and go home to the world of spirit we won’t have quite such a shock when we see that movie, more commonly known as the life review. We’ve all heard of how in moments of danger people say their life flashes before their eyes. That, as far as can be ascertained through those who have had near death experiences and those who experience spirit communication, is a truth. We will see, apparently mercifully quickly but in full, everything we’ve ever done for good or bad. We will feel the pain of what we inflicted upon others. This isn’t said in order to frighten you but to explain that there does come a day when we become aware of the impact of all our actions.
Although we can’t change our past we can change the future by what we do, think and say on a daily basis. I’m no saint and as I write this I’m all too aware of my own faults and failings. I do my best to take notice of these thoughts that come through me because I know they are as much for my own benefit as for any of you who identifies with what I’m saying today. Even though we can’t change our past we can lay it to rest and that is the basis of the act of confession as practiced in the Catholic Church. Reviewing our day from a spiritual perspective is ‘confessing our sins’ – admitting our errors in order to clear our energy field and our soul of negative energy. The idea behind saying, ‘Forgive me Father for I have sinned; I thought bad things about my brother, hit my sister and swore at my mother,’ is to wash away any destructive psychic residue that remains from our ‘sins’ which are errors of judgement and negative actions and reactions.
At times dealing with what has happened in our lives may require more than an inner review. We may need to share our burdens – in church language, confess our sins, to others. We all know the saying that a trouble shared is a trouble halved although to a degree that will depend on what it is and who you share it with and we’re all different in that regard. Some people rarely feel the need to talk over things that upset them; they deal with them privately and in their own way. I have to talk things through. To say, ‘Oh, you’ll never guess what happened today!’ and have a sympathetic friend or my sister at the end of the phone is a blessing.
In the absence of a friend to take your troubles to, counselling is a modern form of the confessional. We also have the wonders of spiritual healing. The great thing about healing is that Spirit knows our issues without any words needing to be spoken; they can see what is in our hearts and on our conscience and do not judge us, but however we choose to deal with our issues, from a soul perspective we are not meant to go over and over a situation endlessly. Process it as far as you can, to learn the lesson – because there always is a lesson involved - and then finally lay it to rest for your own sake and future wellbeing.
There often comes a point in my talks where I say, ‘You may be wondering what has this to do with Spiritualism?’ and I’ve reached that point in this one. This is a valid question. You may have been expecting to hear about the history or some aspect of mediumship and these things are interesting - but another of the gifts and services of the Spiritualist movement is healing. Healing is not just about the body but mind, spirit and soul and the philosophy of spiritualism is a way of living; it’s not just attending a service on a Sunday afternoon but is a way of approaching life that ideally runs through everything we think, say and do. It is pretty much a philosophy of least harm to others and our selves. Issues of regret and other destructive emotions affect us on all levels and need healing as much as a broken arm or bronchitis.
Spiritualism has seven principles. Dealing with our problems would come under the principles of personal responsibility and also the pathway of progress open to those who will to tread it. Eternal progress isn’t just something you do when you’re on the other side of the divide – this life has been designed to test us every day and to measure the progress we have made on a soul level through the experiences we have had. It isn’t just about when we die but how we lived.
Regret and resentment are all about judgement – judging ourselves and judging others. Those who want to become clear channels for spirit, whether as healers or mediums, whether giving messages from loved ones as we will see demonstrated today or messages from guides and angels as I believe my talks are, need to be as clear as possible of judgement, to be detached and pretty much unshockable. Sensitives are sensitive and while that’s a gift it is also the problem. We have to protect ourselves by becoming stronger morally, emotionally, mentally and physically too, and to strive to improve ourselves. One of the ways we do that is through healing ourselves of negative traits. The standard required by spirit is high.
In wondering why life seems so difficult at times and why I myself have been so fearful, there seems to be a twofold element. I believe in past lives. My understanding is that different aspects or facets of our higher soul incarnate to experience earth life for the purpose of gaining greater soul growth than can be gained in the world of spirit. Perhaps within that 90% of our brain the experts have yet to tap into or understand and which they say we don’t use, is stored all those experiences past, present and future of those other aspects of our over-soul.
When we open ourselves up to the belief and understanding that existence is far more than this little life we currently live, then maybe we tap into aspects of those lives through dreams or meditation and sudden flashes of insight. It is my belief that the fear factor is of persecution – perhaps from those past life memories and experiences. Certainly, if you had told me when I was 40 that I’d ever stand up in front of a roomful of people and talk about these things I would probably have fainted on the spot! However, we all have a life path set out for us - some simpler than others. Somehow some of us have to push through the fear and walk a different kind of path.
The second part of finding aspects of life difficult and of experiencing fear and loss (and this seems to be true for many people and most mediums) is this - how could I talk of these things with any degree of authenticity and true empathy if I hadn’t felt and experienced them myself? Why do my poems and the talks I give often touch people, sometimes bringing them to tears or smiles and occasionally making them angry? Perhaps it’s because they touch parts within us all that need to be healed – and as we heal those parts in ourselves we will help to heal the world, because we are all connected.
Resentment and regret separate us, both from each other and from our good (God). How do we resolve or get rid of those feelings? Firstly, you have to want to. We have a tendency to hold on to our memories even when they hurt, because in some ways they define who we are. We have to reach the understanding that it’s not the memories we need to release, it’s the pain and other sad feelings attached to those memories.
When people tell you to move on while you are still consumed by the grief of losing a loved one, please understand that you don’t have to stop thinking about them or talking about them. That would be too sad to contemplate; if you could stop thinking of them that wouldn’t honour their existence. I think of my mum and dad almost every day and they’re long gone. Letting go isn’t about discarding their memory and releasing the warm thoughts; what is needed, for your own sake and quality of life and for the sake of your loved ones in spirit, because they know when you suffer, is to find a way to release the intensity of the pain of the loss. Then you will be able to enjoy good thoughts of them, remembering why you loved them and the gift they were to you, rather than being stuck in the heartache – the regret - of losing them.
On Easter Monday I had the song, ‘One Day I’ll Fly Away’ in my mind and wrote the following. I share it with you as food for thought:
When the past taints the now, we want to escape it. When we have reached peace with the past we don’t need to fly away and can live untainted by what has gone before. The singer sings of love as a painful thing but it’s not love that is painful, it is relationships. It’s not love that hurts but lack of love. Longing hurts; yearning hurts; wanting what we can’t have hurts but love is a giving not a wanting and love is warm, not cold. Love is soft, not hard and love is strong, not weak… E-motion, as we have been told before, is energy in motion – love is energy and if we place our love energy where it is not met with in harmony, hurt results. When we see someone we love suffering, it’s not the love that hurts – it’s the feelings of emotion that are triggered by our compassion that hurts.
At Easter we need to try and understand the symbolic aspect of Jesus dying for our sins. Those who are filled with Christ-light, which is the energy of life’s love force fully expressed, feel love for everything and everyone; it was that love which drove his mission. When we are touched by divine love, when our heart is open and connected to the Source, we have to follow our calling no matter the cost. This is what Jesus did and in feeling the pain of everyone he took that pain upon himself. Gurus can do that – they have the ability to take the illnesses of their followers and transmute them through grace. Also, and paradoxically, the reason Jesus was crucified was because of man’s sin – all those feelings of anger, resentment, jealousy, bitterness, envy and so on are what put him there – whether you believe that was actually or symbolically.
Every day we symbolically crucify people by our unrealistic expectations of them, for example when we criticise and condemn through ‘trial by media’. Sometimes it seems the media deliberately try to hound people to death – with the paparazzi there to take the photos; but this also happens in a less public way. Every time someone is called terrible names and otherwise abused and berated by the people who are supposed to love them, those people are killing them bit by bit, breaking their spirit. Every cruel jibe, every insult and every blow is an assault on their spirit and our own.
That first Easter, Jesus said, ‘Forgive them, Father, for they know not what they do,’ and 2,000 years later we still make the same mistakes. That crown of thorns says more about the people who made it and placed it than about the person who wore it. Every time we do a cruelty to someone it rebounds upon us, because deep in our psyche is a part of us that knows we are doing wrong; every jibe that we give out lodges in our own self. That’s something Jesus understood more than most – that even as the people tried to humiliate him, they humiliated themselves. We can’t make someone feel humiliated, that is something beyond our capabilities. We may try to make them feel that way, but it is still a choice.
People were placed in the stocks in medieval times for public humiliation yet again it says more to me about the character or lack of it of those who dreamed up and carried out those punishments than of the individuals who were the victims of the punishment. I have never understood why people laugh when someone falls over – which is why I find most ‘funniest videos’ unfunny. If you knew that one day you would have to feel every painful thing you have inflicted upon others, whether that was physical or through thought energy, you might think twice; because that is what will happen. When we cross to the world of spirit we will see the extent of our misuse of life energy and feel what those we hurt felt. We need to be aware that even if not in this life, there is no ‘getting away with’ anything. The Universe puts things straight without our intervention.
Not all Spiritualists believe in Jesus as the incarnation of God on earth. Some think of him as a wise elder brother and some may not believe in him at all. One of the greatest attributes of this philosophy is that it honours our right to have a mind of our own; no-one has to profess a belief in anything that they don’t believe in their heart. I do believe in the existence of Jesus as a great Master and guide because of inner experience and my guides use his teachings extensively to illustrate many aspects of our lives and how we can best live them.
I find it interesting that the same key phrases of Jesus’ teachings come up again and again – perhaps these are the teachings that are the Christ essence expressing, or to use a modern term, channelling through Jesus the man. That Christ essence is within us all; it is the transformative power of universal love. Often people will reach that light of love through a ‘dark night of the soul’ which is a symbolic crucifixion. If you are presently going through dark days remember that, as symbolised by Easter as a spring festival, the sun (son) will always rise again and a new day always dawns…
I’d like to finish with a poem I wrote on acceptance, which is of course how we deal with issues such as regret:
ACCEPTANCE – A MESSAGE FROM THE ANGELS
Acceptance is a state of grace
Where all the trials that you face
Are eased by knowing we are there
To help you through; to guide and care;
Resistance is a state of pain
With no real benefits to gain,
“Why did it happen? It’s not fair!”
Injustice is so hard to bear.
What happened, happened, what is, is, and wishing cannot change it,
We’d like so much to ease your pain and help you re-arrange it.
The difficulties that you face, the trials that you bear
Are helped when from your deepest place you call; for we are there.
We cannot stop the trials and pain but we can help you through it,
And though the lessons may be hard, with us to help, you’ll do it.
To re-arrange the way you feel you need to reach inside,
Surrender all the pain to God, release all foolish pride.
Pride holds on tight to all the hurts and keeps their force alive,
But there’s a way to let them go, so they no longer thrive.
Just pass the problem up to God, He has the higher view.
He understands the broader picture, knows what you should do;
And to accept a state of grace you need to let God in
To dwell down in your deepest place and be the light within;
Light up your life. Stand in your power. Acceptance is the key.
Unlock the door to inner peace. Be here; be now; be free.
©Jan Hunneybell, 5 April 2008
HANDLE ME WITH CARE
(Talk given at Lilydale & District Spiritual Church, 9 March 2008)
Some of us seem a little more fragile than others, a tad too sensitive. We may be easily hurt or easy to anger or take offence - but there is a difference between being sensitive and over-sensitive and there’s a difference between handling with care and treading on eggshells. Some people are ‘fragile’ all the time, but if you have been feeling a little over-sensitive, more emotional and tearful than usual lately, be comforted that you’re not alone. Many people are feeling that way. If you haven’t, lucky you! I know I’ve felt it. We all have issues to contend with but I realised the feelings aren’t just about me; there is wider energy at play.
Change is happening on a global scale. It is good change, so if you’re feeling this, don’t worry, you will get through it; you’re not losing the plot. There is definitely ‘something in the air’ and guys, if you feel it too, remember that although you may have been told, ‘Big boys don’t cry’, there are times when big boys may not cry but emotionally mature men do. It’s good for your health.
On watching the TV coverage of ‘Sorry Day’ last month, I noticed there was a significant shift in people’s behaviour, a willingness to be open to feeling emotion and expressing it from the heart and also for people to open their hearts and use their imaginations to travel in other people’s shoes and empathise with their pain. It was lovely to see such openness and honesty. This is progress and heartening, regardless of the cynical view. Problems may continue but they’ll be different ones - and in the meantime healing occurred for many people.
We saw how a heartfelt sorry can help to heal pain; it was a public manifestation of a shift in all humanity. We are all becoming more sensitive to the connections between us and becoming aware of how, when we hurt others, we hurt ourselves. At times we all need to be handled with care and to be able to express ourselves and our feelings in a more healthy way. This will benefit everyone.
I wonder how much ‘bad behaviour’ in children is misunderstood. How many children who are regarded as a problem, (being what used to be termed ‘highly strung’ but in current terms more liable to be labelled ADD or ADHD), are really distressed and suffering, particularly in our modern, over stimulating environments. They are bombarded all day long with all sorts of energy and imagery. We have electrical and radio signals all around us, the hum of the fridge, the phone, the computer and the TV.
Shopping centres are awful places for sensitive children. People seem unaware of the noise in shopping centres. There is a barrage of sound, a mix of electrical noise, music and a multitude of voices creating at best a sort of constant, low level hum but on days when I’m feeling sensitive it sounds more like a roar. Children’s hearing and other senses are more acute than adults and I believe that it’s this noise and the energy of these centres that is at least partly responsible for small children becoming fractious and distressed. They can’t explain what’s wrong so they cry or scream and then get shouted at and called naughty…
Our children need handling with care. They need kindness and firmness; they also need those who care for them to try their best to view the world through a child’s eyes (and ears) – then those adults will hopefully see the wonder but also better understand the problems and fears of being a small person in a big person’s world. Children are so impressionable and tend to pick up the things we’d prefer them not to learn far more easily than those things we want them to learn. They also often feel that they are to blame when things go wrong, like their parents arguing or splitting up or getting ill. These are burdens that children bring into adulthood.
The chances are that most if not all of you have some issues from childhood. This is because most of our wounds and sensitivities have their origins back there. It’s also my belief that many of those problems stem back to past lives. We may not remember our past lives, not many people do, but it is as if the wounds from some of them are so deep that the memory has leaked into this current existence, affecting our attitudes and reactions to life and the challenges it brings. Our whole approach to life may be coloured by those unconscious stirrings of memory and imagination.
A powerful imagination can fill us with fears. It could equally fill us with delight if we harnessed it appropriately. There is an overlapping area between memory and imagination which adds to the richness and diversity of human experience but also makes it difficult at times to trust the veracity of our thoughts and where they spring from. Because of this, a great deal of the work of being a channel for spirit is in clearing and healing our issues and practicing discernment. The more we heal or come to terms with our issues, the clearer the thoughts, sounds, feelings and images that arise into consciousness will be and the easier they will be to interpret. It takes a lot of courage and trust to be a spiritual medium; it should also include a great deal of self analysis and the realisation that although it's a marvellous gift, mediumship is only part of the journey, not the destination.
While few people are destined to be 'evidence of survival mediums', everyone is an instrument of spirit and the quality of spirit that manifests through us will depend on how we tune our instrument, which is a three fold entity of mind, body and spirit. The trinity through which God (or Good) is made manifest through each of us is achieved through the balanced and positive development and attention to all three elements. Many people focus on one or two of these elements – for example, some sportspeople may focus on the body without giving due attention to mind or spirit. Theologians may focus on spirit without giving care or actively neglecting and inflicting cruelty to their body; whilst some academics may be so absorbed in brainwork that they neglect both body and spirit. However, we are triune beings and these three distinct aspects to our lives all need to be addressed and given balance.
For me physical activity has always been neglected, mostly through fear of discomfort, injury and pain. When I was a kid, if a ball lobbed in my direction, instead of catching it I would duck out of the way, incurring the fury of others for not making an easy catch! I have been fortunate in this lifetime. I haven't suffered serious physical ailments or any physical abuse, yet even as a small child I seemed to know what it was to experience violence. Where would that come from except past lifetimes? Whatever the source of that feeling, something deep within me has always understood what it is to suffer. It seems like my soul said, ‘You’ve had enough of that before, you don’t need it this time.’ Thank heavens for that! But the fear of it, the far distant memory of abuse and persecution has often seemed to hold me, and probably countless other people too, back from being in the fullness of what I could be. I’m still working on courage...
Avoidance of physical activity seemed to be avoidance of pain but I gradually realised in recent years that there is a price to pay for not being physically active. The body seizes up and pain and suffering become a consequence of inactivity. In recent years I started getting stiff and achy for the first time in my life when getting out of bed and after sitting still for a short while and alarm bells started ringing. I’m now getting out there and getting active. To my great surprise, I’m enjoying it. I struggle up the hills, gasp for breath and think, ‘Never again!’, but those little endorphins start to bounce with glee and press my happy buttons.
I’m a convert. I still have to force myself out of the door but I love my walks and enjoy my workouts - but I will never like team games! Once I realised there was a difference between sport and exercise I could finally put school sport behind me, which put me off physical activity for so many years. Oh yes, our childhood wounds run deep! We may spend a lifetime avoiding what caused us distress in the past. The parts of us that are injured in childhood become ‘stunted growth’ and these wounded aspects of ourselves don’t grow and mature along with the rest of ourself.
It’s like we are a tree with many branches. The branches that have been damaged don’t grow as well as the rest of the tree. The tree continues to grow and the healthy branches grow with it but those that were cut, broken or otherwise damaged don’t grow in harmony with the rest of the tree. As human beings, if we can retrieve the memories that caused us to be emotionally damaged and then reframe them or come to a different understanding of what caused the original damage, we can restore our lost parts. In the language of the mystic this is ‘soul retrieval’ or ‘reclaiming our spirit’. Either alone or with the help of healing or counselling, these practices can restore us to wholeness.
We are told of the importance of living in the moment, being here now and fully concentrating on this point in time. This has been reiterated over and again in my own inspired writings. The guides and angels want us to be still, not focussed on past or future - because when we are fully present they can connect with us and help to influence our lives in positive ways. When we are stuck in the past we are influenced by the ghosts of our memories and when we are focussed on the future we are influenced by the spectres of our projections. These are creations and vampires of our energy.
While we are past and future tripping we miss out on now because our minds are filled with thoughts; energy creations that bring all kinds of emotional reactions that take energy away from this moment, leaving less personal energy with which to manifest the positive energies of guidance. Guidance is there; we all have spiritual help available to us but we can’t access it if we have all this other stuff in our minds – the resentment, regret or wistful longings of the past or the anticipation, dread or ambition for the future. These are feelings that use large amounts of energy. Add to that all the worrying we indulge in on behalf of our family, friends, money, work and so forth and it’s amazing that any guidance can find its way through the fog of feelings, emotions and thoughts that clutter our brains. It’s exhausting just thinking of it…
Those of you who’ve listened to my talks over the years may be thinking ‘Well, you often talk of the past, Jan,’ and this is true but it’s not because I’m stuck there but because my guides have found a way to use my past as material to illustrate my talks. My memories are not particularly special and sometimes I’d rather not share those I’m not so proud of, but the guides have other ideas! Maybe it’s their ordinariness that matters most, because that's why people relate to them. If we talk of forgiveness, detachment or stillness, they are only abstract concepts until they are illustrated with examples. Unless you connect the ideas with real life situations it may be hard to relate them to your own lives but when I share an incident you may get a ‘me too!’ feeling, which could help you heal or understand a situation or issue of your own. If not, even if you just walk away thinking, ‘I never thought of it like that before!’ it could be useful to you.